“We came out, a car drove up, called her a ‘n***er lover’ and drove away. She was obviously deeply upset because she couldn’t be seen as someone who was in a genuine relationship.” Richard Bashir Otukoya: “There was no, ‘Oh look at this guy, he’s got a job, he’s doing his Ph D.’ There was none of that.
It was just, ‘No, you’re black.’ That’s it.” Photograph: Dave Meehan/The Irish Times As someone who has suffered “subtle racism and explicit racism” all his life, the incident did not unnerve Otukoya (“That’s fine because then you know their intentions”).
The concept of a black man in a relationship with a white woman is a "thing" that people have an opinion on, and that opinion comes with an entire set of stereotypes, fueled by racist ideology, a complicated past, and sometimes even pop culture.
Kanye West once rapped about how successful black men will "leave your ass for a white girl," and then put himself into that box by marrying a white woman, furthering the pervasiveness of flawed, generic ideas about interracial relationships.
In an essay published on titled, “Stop Having Sex With Black People,” Iesha Mason gets to the root of loving Black people radically (especially with regard to interracial dating and specifically whites who date Blacks).
She writes: “I have noticed a trend of white people who like to have sex with black people but never actually show their solidarity with black people when s*** gets real.
Richard Bashir Otukoya has some bad relationship stories. They ripple with a hurt most of us don’t experience.
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