I have become depressed and I feel unimportant to him. He tells me he hates jealousy and that I should trust him, but it is hard not to feel that way when he spends so much time with her. Your husband has stepped over boundary lines in your marriage. Marriage is for two people, husband and wife, with no one else between you.
I am wondering if he simply gets an ego boost from being the 'hero' playing with women or if there could be more... I am wondering if anyone else has this same experience?The Internet has made it easy to view pornography and even have Internet affairs or "cyber-sex." In fact, 8 to 10 percent of Internet users actually become addicted to cyber-sex and one-third of divorce litigation is actually sparked by online affairs. Joy Browne, radio talk-show host, author and clinical psychologist and relationship expert, and a woman named Christine who used spy software and caught her husband contacting women over the Internet, offer their views on the matter on The Early Show.She says, "And that's when I found out all the different sites he was going to, what he was looking for. It is important to note, it is legal to put this spy software on a computer as long as you own the computer - which Christine did.But she would not have been legally allowed to put it on her husband's computer at work or any other computer that she did not own.You become "friends" with an ex on Facebook and reminisce about the past. You spend hours thinking about them and your heart races whenever you see a text from them. You tell yourself it's ok because you're not really cheating, you're just chatting. Biochemical research has shown that the effect of these love chemicals is twofold: they are released in response to your friend, and they bond you to him or her.
Pretty soon, you find yourself glowing every time you spend time with this person. This is especially true of women who produce higher levels of oxytocin -- the bonding hormone that enhances the feeling of having found your "soul mate" connection.
In his particular favorite game, members join as either sex and he plays with both sexes so you can never tell for sure who exactly he is playing with.
Although I know he does actually play with girls/women.
Before you are tempted to do something risky -- like leave your stable, good relationship for your exciting emotional lover -- it's important to examine what's really going on. There's a huge difference between a platonic friendship and a friendship that has crossed the line into the emotional sex danger zone.
The most common sex issue faced by otherwise happily married couples? Couples often end up bemused and confused by a marriage that's dimmed in sexual intensity or frequency. "It's when we're at our most vulnerable." Plus, your bedroom, and certainly your bed, should be a sanctuary, not a place to air grievances. There is something to be said for spontaneity, but this may not be the time for it.
And when I'd walk in, he'd be switching so I couldn't see what he was doing. And then I had gotten a picture sent to me from my sister and I'm not very computer literate, and I was checking the computer to find out where I put the picture when I downloaded it.