Kathleen Colduvell RN, BSN, BA, CBC graduated with a degree in English and journalism before going back to nursing school.
After graduating from Villanova University, she became a Neonatal Intensive Care Nurse.
When I was finishing my fifth year of studies as clinical psychology doctoral student, I fell in love with a second-year medical resident; a wanderer at heart with the softest smile and a way of listening that made me feel like the whole world stopped when I spoke.
Whenever possible, we found ourselves in the forest exploring the world on foot or, if the weather was bad, on long drives that led to nowhere.
Currently, she works at one of the leading children’s hospitals in the country in the NICU, PICU, and CICU, as well as working as a Certified Breastfeeding Consultant.
I'm writing this post as The Bear puts in another 6-day, 100-hour work week. " and I read myriad first-hand accounts (this book and this book are good, if you're interested), I don't think I fully understood just what dating a first-year resident really, truly, actually entailed until that first morning his alarm went off at 5 am and I blearily watched him don his scrubs, grab his coffee, peck me on the cheek, and go. Not only that, but when he walks in the door after a grueling shift and you've been anxiously waiting for him to come home so you can fill him on idle work gossip, he's not always up for it. It's not because he doesn't love you and isn't interested, it's because he is so physically and emotionally drained that he needs time to decompress. Oh, you had dinner plans at 8 at that brand new Mexican place? You're ridin' solo now, my friend, because at , a patient in the ICU crashed and he'll be there for at least two more hours doing paperwork. But don't make the same mistake we did and take it a month into residency. He had a how-to video queued up on his computer and he was trying over and over again on his practice stitch board (is that what they call those things, asks the non-medical professional? After a 7-day week where he clocked 100 hours, he was still bettering himself, still putting in time to be a better doctor.
I couldn’t believe that these women went out of their way to study in the medicine library (the other end of campus) for the blind chance that, perhaps, a med student might take notice of them. The average debt of a med school graduate is about 160,000 USD, which normally takes up to 30 years to pay off and consequentially amounts to around 400,000 USD of total debt with accrued interest added in. While doctors start off with 6 figures right off the bat, they also have 6 figures of debt under their belt.
At the time, I never imagined I would someday date a doctor. Doctors may make more than your average Joe, but with the debt factored in it’s definitely not an easy or quick path to riches.
And even though he made this "lifestyle" very clear to me from Date #2 – something along the lines of, "Do you really understand what you're getting yourself into? A note on vacation time: First-year residents get 2 two-week vacations. Last night, I walked in on the Bear practicing stitches.
Let me tell you, it’s more Mc Lonely than Mc Dreamy up in here, ladies. You'll have more time than you know what to do with. Your partner will spend almost one day out of every single weekend working. My suggestion (and really, this applies to everyone, no matter what profession your partner): Fill your life – with friends, with furry three-legged cats, with books, with travel, and when you're reunited because his shifts have lightened up? I've learned – okay, I'm still learning – not to hound him the moment he walks in the door. My suggestion: Always have a Plan B or start enjoying meals by yourself – I swear, sushi tastes better with a good book! (To be fair, it was my sister's wedding and we didn't have much a choice.) But still, learn from us and spread those two week vacas out or those hospital stretches are going to feel like for-ev-er. Your needs & wants, both physical and emotional, take a backseat to the patient(s) the majority of the time. I smiled and watched him until he got it right, because to watch someone you love do something they love?
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Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.i just started seeing a 3rd yr ER resident. at the beginning he told me it is going to be hard to date him. when i text or email him he will reply but he has never initiated to contact me first. honestly, i used to stay in touch with all of my exes almost everyday. Take the time he actually can give you, and appreciate it. You got some good advice from the other posters on how to maintain contact.