This is going to be different from any other relationship you’ve had in the past. Keep in mind that this guy can’t be carefree – he has to provide for his children and be available whenever they need him.
Keep the relationship between the two of you, and when marriage becomes a consideration, have him introduce you to the kids.
Think of it from a child’s perspective: Dad has a new girlfriend for a few months and then she goes away.
During the teenage years, young people are trying to come into their own and often rebel against their parents and other adults, which is why they often chose friends and relationships that their parents disapprove of, including dating older men.
I hate when I am working with a teenage girl and she tells me she is dating an older man, usually because I know that this relationship, while to her may be idyllic and dreamy, is more often a disaster waiting to happen on so many levels.
Coping with someone else's children, especially when you are not used to raising children, can be an abrupt and disruptive change in life circumstances, although it can also be really rewarding.
This article discusses the things that you need to address before saying "I do" to a man who has children already.If this continues to happen, the child will be hurt as well as the father.Time for intimacy may be replaced by time spent together with the children. Remember: in actuality you’re dating the entire family, not just the guy.I told her that had to say something about his motives, personality, etc., but of course she didn’t see this as a red flag, but was instead flattered that someone who could date anyone his age or older, chose to date her.After several months of bliss and sex, he started treating her badly and her moods were very erratic, varied by however they were doing at the moment.licensedmentalhealthcounselor ♦ February 20, 2013 ♦ 96 Comments Working with teenage girls, there’s a lot of things I worry about because the teenage years are so perplexing, especially with teenage girls who are often searching for a sense of belonging to the point that they are willing to starve themselves, cut themselves out of pain and shame, sleep with boys just to feel wanted, and sadly, even attempt to take their own lives when they feel as if they don’t and will never belong.