If there is always that possibility, then you must ask yourself whether this person has the qualities you will need in a husband. Ask yourself these questions: How strong is his relationship with Jesus Christ? How passionate is he about reading God’s Word, prayer, and fellowship with other believers in a biblically solid church? However, in Ephesians Paul compares a husband’s role toward his wife with that of Christ’s role toward His Bride, the Church, “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, the she might be holy and without blemish,” (Ephesians -27, emphasis mine).
“Dear Ruthie, I recently came across your post “How Do I Know if He’s The One?
” and it really opened my eyes to my current relationship.
We’ve been through a lot together–hard things that I wouldn’t have made it through if he wasn’t by my side.
The dilemma I am having is do I overlook the bad in him and accept him or should I move on with my life?
The reason we answer in such a non-committal way is because there is SO much that goes into knowing an answer to that question.
It’s something that the person who is inquiring, needs to deal with in a very intentional and mature manner.
When I see some of his personality I know that he probably isn’t the one that I should be with.
But he is so selfless and is always putting my needs first.
And it puts the woman on an extended trial to determine whether or not she meets at the center of the process, in the role of a window-shopper or consumer at a buffet.
In this scenario you remain unexamined, unquestioned and unassailable — sovereign in your tastes and preferences and judgments.
Instead, like Hosea, we all marry Gomer; that is to say, we all marry another sinner, whom God intends to use to refine and grow our faith in Jesus. " If you're not, then you'd be better off spending less time evaluating the women around you, and more time developing the character of a disciple.