And you can discuss your values, and goals, and hopes and dreams, and both have the intention to stick things out if you run into trouble (which, in my opinion, is what marriage is all about vs. That said, is a month too soon to decide to commit to someone for life? I tend to think that achieving all of those things usually takes six months (at the least).
Even well into your thirties—when people are more self-aware than they were in their twenties and know what they want—and into your forties—when having kids starts to feel a bit more urgent—you can still afford to wait six months.
” The phrasing of this question illustrates the fact that waiting can feel like working against the tide of biology and the romantic rush of falling in love and making it official.
Myoarin- Interesting comments, although I would have to disagree with your statement: "I think we would agree that "dating" ends when a couple starts to cohabit and also with the engagement of those who do not." I do not consider a couple who is living together to be on a higher commitment level than those who are not living together; rather, they are simply sharing their living quarters, and at most have a month-to-month agreement to stay together.
The reason I asked this question in the first place is that I have several friends who live with their respective boyfriends.
Here's the thing—you can know a person for years before you get engaged, be happily married for years after that, and then something bad can happen.
It happened to many couples I know—couples who played by all the rules and waited "appropriate" amounts of time before committing. Down the road, someone still might cheat, or fall out of love, or want totally different things.
Is there a difference in the average length of time spent dating before engagement for couples who live together (cohabit) versus those who do not?
What about the length of engagement before marriage for those two groups?But the poll suggests it may be difficult to meet a woman's romantic expectations, as 43 per cent of those who do get the proposal within three years wish it had been more romantic and 42 per cent told their partners so.It also noted that one in ten women breaks with tradition by making the proposal themselves.All have been together for several years and none are engaged.My feeling is that the moving in together has delayed any pending engagement, but I would like some sort of research to back taht up.They were married for four years, which is 48 times longer than they knew each other before committing (and longer than many other couples who dated for "normal" amounts of time before getting engaged). Well, recently a friend of mine had that exact sort of giddy smile you get about one month into a new relationship. " in my head, while the other half screamed practical things, like "Pump the breaks!