."READ MORE This App Can Tell If You’ve Been Naughty or Nice Based on Your Tweets Here are 9 revelations about sex and dating, courtesy of Rudder, Although women tend to seek men around their age, men of all ages are by far looking for women in their early 20s, according to Ok Cupid data.
While men often set their age filters for women into the 30s and beyond, rarely do they contact a woman over 29.2.
But have you ever heard of Rice Queens being used to refer to non-Asian women who go after Asian men? While Asian straight women are one of the most fetishized dating prospects, Asian straight men, on the other hand, are the least, virtually invisible when it comes to sexy images in popular culture, even when they are on par in terms of physical attractiveness as their non-Asian equivalents.(Asian gay men fall somewhere in between, being either highly fetishized or being told "no Asians" on dating sites.Yet activism has taken place within the Asian gay male community, such as the Sexual Racism Sux campaign or a new site for Asian gay men, launched by local Edward Ho, to share their dating experiences and other efforts.In other words, they prey on Asian women simply because they’re Asian.But this essay isn’t about that type of yellow fever. While I’m sympathetic to the plight of Asian women who are exotified by awful white men, this new, zeitgeisty application of the term “yellow fever” hasn’t replaced the way it was used in my schoolyard all those years ago: as a catchall term for Asian person.Friends are once again teasing me for having “yellow fever,” and as far as facts are concerned, I can’t argue with the designation: My current partner is Chinese-American, while my most recent ex-girlfriend is Vietnamese-Canadian. I can dismiss their playful ribbing the same way I dismissed most name-calling during elementary school—after all, there’s nothing wrong with dating women of Asian descent—but “yellow fever” isn’t an innocuous, empty label. Friends may just be having fun, but to my ears, I’m being called a deviant. Google “yellow fever,” and you’ll see that many Asian women have taken back the term to shame white men who fetishize them based on racial stereotypes.
Such men believe all Asian women are docile and hypersexual, and happily project these qualities onto potential romantic partners.
Even if I'm eminently unqualified to make sociological or cultural deductions, let me offer some possible clues.
At the outset, Asian men are far fewer in numbers than black or Latino men, which restricts their exposure, availability and access to white women.
To me, it was just another form of teasing that I threw into my sizable trashcan of forgotten terms, lying dormant all these years—until now.
After spending half of my twenties living and working in Hong Kong and South Korea, I returned to North America last summer, at 30, with a reputation as a White Guy Who Dates Asian Girls.
They are also culturally alien to white women in a way that black or Latino men are not.