Notice there isn’t an easily accessible formula for how young girls can go, or how old boys can go.A large part of that injustice is mental growth rates.
A few months ago, in October, scandal swept through Minnesota high school tennis.It was revealed that at the all girls private school only a few miles away from the school I attend, the male Varsity Tennis coach was sleeping with at least one of his players. Obviously this is an extreme example of a dangerous relationship made by an age gap. One formula that seeks to address this problem is [Guy’s Age] / 2 7 = [Girl’s Age].Things still aren’t perfect but the ranges seem more reasonable.The new equation (created using excel) is: Lower Limit =IF(YOUR_AGE – SUM((YOUR_AGE/2) 7) 20, YOUR_AGE 20, (YOUR_AGE-7)*2) For the lower limit, I’m checking if the lower range is more than 20 years younger than YOUR_AGE and if it is I’m capping it at 20 years younger. Here’s what my initial results look like: This is just one section of the entire results and you can download the entire excel sheet here.(And now we see why the last panel of the XKCD comic above applies so well to me…) Sure enough, if we overlay Rudder’s Ok Cupid data over the first chart, we see that men follow the rule almost exactly.
There are a few spots in the mid-30’s where men seem willing to dip ever so slightly past the safe zone of non-creepiness, but that trend quickly ends by their 40’s.The Half Plus Seven Rule is an unwritten rule which asserts that it is creepy to date anyone who is younger than half your age plus 7 years.For example, a 50 year old dating someone who is 31 or younger would be classed as creepy.More details followed the first shocking ripple, including the fact that he thought they were “in love,” and couldn’t find any fault in their relationship. But on the other hand, one of my closest friend’s parents are 10 years apart, and their relationship is healthy and desirable. For example: a 40 year old guy shouldn’t date anyone younger than 27, while the youngest a 20 year old should go is 17.Obviously a mathematical formula has limited abilities to define life, however it does help to further illuminate some of the more interesting qualities of the age question.This seems arbitrary, but if you crunch your age into that equation, I’m willing to bet that you wouldn’t even consider dating someone under that age. ) If we plot the Standard Creepiness Rule out for men: (Note that you can easily just change the axis labels in the above chart and it works just as well for women.) It just so happens that Christian Rudder released his book Dataclysm last week, which features a chart showing us the age range that men search on Ok Cupid for when looking for women to date.