Good news is that things are more clear now and even though a lot of her behaviors/reactions are still weird to me at least it makes sense to me why she does what she does. I think you know what to do, it's time to cut her loose.
Has "conservative" value system about dating / relationships / family. I think deep down you know that your gut feeling is right about this girl.
Loyal, she could go through fire and water to be together. She might be cool, she might be feminine, but that's a LONG laundry list of red flags my friend.
He’d introduced her to his friends and his whole family. One day after being and doing what she intuited her boyfriend expected of her, she finally broke.
She didn’t know that she was supposed to just be herself, be vulnerable, honest, and imperfect as well as expect to be loved for all that.
The feelings, personality traits, and relationship patterns that you developed to cope with an alcoholic parent, come with you to work, romantic relationships, parenting, and friendships.
They show up as anxiety, depression, substance abuse, stress, anger, and relationship problems.
It’s probably not too difficult to see why being an ACOA can make romantic relationships as an adult challenging.
You may not have made the connection between your partner’s family history and what shows up in your relationship, but the impact is huge.
Bad news is that it's quite a tough love and while never ending ups and downs keep me "busy" with her and engaged it's starting to get tiring. 2) Is taking positive steps to address those flaws? In retrospect, I think she was just a drama queen and had it not been for her dad being a drunk she'd have been going on about something else. It was like some kind of Bizarro World rite of passion for her dysfunctional family.
Makes me wonder about any potential future with a woman like that. [edit: just read the part where she's apparently aware - what kind of help is she getting? You might want to head over to Rollo Tomassi's blog to see if he has some writings dealing with this. As for me, I would strongly recommend you NOT play any Tom Waits music around this girl.
As a child, your partner may have had the following characteristics: On the other hand, your partner may have swung to the other end of the spectrum, trying to make everything perfect, being the peacemaker in the family, striving for perfectionism, taking on adult responsibilities, and denying their own needs in favor of protecting the alcoholic parent.