Are you aware of your role in the marriage’s demise?And, have you made as much peace as possible with your ex and the divorce?It’s interesting that the questioner clarifies “Haven’t slept with them and haven’t done or said anything crazy to scare them away.” A guy who pulled away completely after having sex for the first time would either be a guy who was ONLY looking for sex with you in the first place, or a guy who is oddly judgmental about women having sex too early.
“Why do some men show so much interest; taking you out, texting regularly, even calling at times!
Then it’s down to texting maybe once a week, then a text every month if that!
"good relationship skills." What kind of "alpha" male are you?
If you're a gorilla, you establish your physical dominance over any male you meet.
John Gray is the author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.
Originally published in 1992, Gray’s book became the best-selling relationship advice book of all time.
Here are 5 of the most common: The truth is – many men just don’t know what they want. So he tells himself, “I’m going to just be single now”, then in the course of his normal dating life he meets an incredible woman he really likes and…now what??! So he decides to date this woman for a while, gets closer and closer to her, but in the back of his mind he still hold himself back from serious commitment. He wants the comfort of dating one person yet doesn’t want see it moving somewhere serious in the future. Typically he’ll get to a point where either (a) you have THE “DEFINE THE RELATIONSHIP” CONVERSATION and both realise you’re on totally different pages, after which he pulls away, or (b) he just quietly starts “fading” out, realizing that he’s in too deep and hoping that he can tiptoe out of your life without causing too much fuss.
I can’t tell you the number of guys I’ve spoken to in the past year (age mid-20’s to late-30’s) who have the following dilemma: “I want connection, and love being with someone, but I don’t see myself in a serious relationship right now.” Maybe it’s because of their career, maybe because they don’t want marriage yet, or maybe just because they want to enjoy the single life of no-strings attached bachelordom before they settle down. Needless to say, option (b) is pretty cowardly on the guy’s part.
Divorce is one of the most traumatic events we go through, and when we reach the proverbial "light at the end of the tunnel," many of us feel that little spring in our step and start to think about dating again.
So how can you start off on the right foot when you're just beginning to dip your toes back into the dating pool?
However on Mars, men tie their egos to the choices they make.